I could post a bunch of links here about how New Year resolutions are likely to fail, are a terrible idea or work more against us than for us, but I’m not, which is why I wasted your time reading a sentence about how I could do something.
Instead you get my resolution(s) because you’re kind of getting a singular, overriding one and an explanation (but no listing of) my others.
I’ve been thinking for about five months now that I want to “clean up my image” so to speak. I kind of lost a lot of good habits and such over the last year and a half and I’m not happy about where I am (figuratively not physically). I can change many things about my personality, morals, ethics and whatnot, but I decided if I focus on the general, broad scope, I’ll never accomplish anything.
By nature I’m sarcastic. People tend to enjoy this aspect of me, but I never really have (although I admit there are many gains one can achieve through sarcasm). My time serving in Costa Rica saw a drastic decline in my levels of sarcasm mostly because people there never grasped sarcasm unless it knocked them upside the head. Like hard upside the head. As in slapped them in the face and screamed kumbaya. I loved this drop in sarcasm. I viewed it as a great personality improvement. There’s so much dishonesty in sarcasm that those around the person cannot pick up on because of its inherent nature.
So, my overriding resolution this year is to become less sarcastic. If possible, to wipe it out completely. This will take a lot of self-control because my current living situation allows for loads of sarcasm on almost a minute-by-minute basis. I also foresee people who read this post pointing out my sarcasm when I’m arguing with them and trying to silence me that way (DON’T DO THAT – even if it’s my choice, you’re going to make me fail outright miserably in those situations or with you).
Now…how do I intend to go about removing sarcasm? First, I need some reminders of my own creation in my everyday locations. I’ll do that. Check. If I felt reminders from others were not filled with ulterior motives, other people could help (family: DON’T). Check-wannabe. And overall, this will take a lot of self-control and biting my tongue (I’ve learned to bite my tongue a lot this last year, but this will be much more focused biting).
Anyway, that’s the overall resolution of the year. The other resolutions, which are not related per se to the main one, work thusly (yes, thusly): Each month I will focus on a different trait, goal, aspect, blahbergh or hoohah. At the moment I have ten selected and need two more, but I recognize that my vision of what to focus on each month may change as the year progresses. For this reason, not a single month’s focus is set in stone yet except for January’s. Time will tell which of my resolutions will become the emphasis for which month.
Anyway, I’ve got some organizing to do before New Year festivities begin, so Happy New Year and don’t let the bedbugs bite.